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@outlander,So sorry babygirl but you know you did everything you could've done and unfortunately like us ,her weakness or threat in her/his life was colic.If you were there whilst the needle was given you were brave,  I could never do it,I was at work years ago when I got the vet to euthanize the horse with snake bite,but you have that awful feeling come over you that "they are gone and awful grief.I don't know what's worse but when I got home and saw the heap of dirt in the paddock. Whatever animal I have had to make that decision whether it was the horse,cow or cat it doesn't get easier.

Yes,once the burial is done get out, whether it's to a shopping mall for a hot drink,but try to avoid the loneliness of your bedroom for a few hours . Thinking of you and you do remind me of myself,you love your animals to the end of the earth and back.

 

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@outlander,So sorry babygirl but you know you did everything you could've done and unfortunately like us ,her weakness or threat in her/his life was colic.If you were there whilst the needle was given you were brave,  I could never do it,I was at work years ago when I got the vet to euthanize the horse with snake bite,but you have that awful feeling come over you that "they are gone and awful grief.I don't know what's worse but when I got home and saw the heap of dirt in the paddock. Whatever animal I have had to make that decision whether it was the horse,cow or cat it doesn't get easier.

Yes,once it is done get out, whether it's to a shopping mall for a hot drink,but try to avoid the loneliness of your bedroom for a few hours . Thinking of you and you do remind me of myself,you love your animals to the end of the earth and back.

 

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Good morning @TAB from Bimby2

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Thank you @soul @MDT ❤ im devastated

@Former-Member i watched her go. No one else could do it and mum was there but shes a mess so i did. I just watched the escavator come through the gates and bury her. The other 2 horses are in their paddocks waiting for the horse to come back. Its so heartbreaking
I didnt leave till 7 last night and chevked her ever hour till 10 oclock last night.
Then i got here at 5 this morning with mum at work abd kids asleep. I couldnt get her up and thought she had passed but shr wasnt i got her ip and walked her till 8 when vet got here and now had to watch go through this.
This is one of the hardest things ive had to do.
Im completely devastated
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I know how hard it is,you are braver than you think, unfortunately that's a part of life and owning animals.You did the right thing,and I know you are probably thinking how you should've done it yesterday,but you gave her a chance.You are exhausted at the moment ,give yourself a break outlander, whatever you've gone through like me you are tough,even though we both have a cracked shell.I know the awful feeling you know they are gone but you have that erry feeling that their spirit is still with you.It is traumatic,the vet would never let me be there if a dog was euthanized because she knew I was a mess.Had a Hereford/Friesian cow who had eye cancer who I reared ed as a calf and she'd follow me like a dog with her family following from the top paddock.Id put my arms around her and hug her,yell her name out and she'd come.Its devastating when they go because you loved them so much.

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@Former-Member Thinking of you buddy - hope you are ok - check in today if you are able to Heart

 

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Aw @outlander

 

That is really bad news - is this the horse you called D here? I guess it was

 

Losing a pet - though it's hard to call a horse a pet - that is indeed devastating and I am so sorry - how brave you were to watch all of this - 

 

If you need time out then that's what you need to do - we will still be here - life has been so hard for you

 

And you do deserve better - I am thinking of you

 

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Good Morning @Bimby2 😀

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No it wasnt D it was one i was closer too and had in tje family for 6yrs @Owlunar
It was so hare to.make that decision and them have to watch amd hang around for her spirit to fly and get buried
It was so hard! Im devastated 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

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Hi @outlander

 

I am glad it wasn't D - but still - having a horse helped over the Rainbow Bridge is hard yards - I get it

 

A long time ago I had a stray cat who adopted us and to this day my daughter and I loved that cat and felt she was the best ever - we had her for 6 years and she had to be helped over the Rainbow Bridge - of course this time I took her to the vet and held her while she left

 

I felt her spirit leave her and pass up my arm and to this day this devoted old cat is still in my memories and that terrible day is a long time in the past and I have my companion cat now - and I have had her for 13.5 years

 

I know you're a horse person and I'm a cat person but yes - it doesn't matter - we love them and it's very hard when they have to leave

 

Thinking of youHeart

 

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