Lived Experience Forum

[Starshine]

Hi just wondering if anyone else feels lonely

[Former-Member]

hi @Starshine

yes I do... i find it hard to socialise at the best of times. and making friends/letting people into my life is really hard. I am a single mama and wish i had someone to share things with. 

how do you cope with it?

lj

[Starshine]

Hmmm well I isolate and find it hard to trust people. I love in a country town and feel like people just take one look at me and run

[Starshine]

Live in a small country town I mean 🙂

[Former-Member]

Yes @Starshine, a lot. People contact does help (if they are kind & not gossipy) when I force myself out there. I live alone, ALL my family live 200++ km away and small towns have their little 'clicks' with cement walls and mote and a fire breathing dragon around them... Lol you know what I mean. Insula. The forums have helped me a lot.

[Former-Member]

Country towns can be really hard.. have you always lived there? 

I moved from a small country town when i left my ex... but i remember how hard ti was to make friends there.. lots of people were nice to my husband (he was an upstanding member of the community..) and we got invited to lots of things but i never really made personal friendships as such.

Do you have any hobbies or interests that could help you join a club? I tried playing netball.. but at the time my ex didnt like it and then we had kids etc.. 

lj

[Starshine]

That's good to know, yes I know EXACTLY what you mean. It's pretty hard to connect sometimes but I'm glad I finally joined here

[Starshine]

Well I grew up here and my parents were from overseas so it was hard because everyone knew everyone and had their own clicks. I've joined a local organisation to help me look at what's available in the community but I'm really anxious about it. Did you enjoy netball?

[Starshine]

I'm pretty uncoordinated so knitting sounds good. But it's isolationist so here seems a good idea 🙂

[Starshine]

Or watching seinfeld