Lived Experience Forum

[xcfal]

3 years ago my best friend moved over seas and yes I'm still in contact with hime but he's very busy and can't talk much and he's my only friend and when I do try to make friends they give me weird looks.ive found that lately I don't really care about anything anymore it feels like I can't be happy again and I have no-one to do anything/talk with I'm bored every day and when I get motivation to do something and I see it infant of me I loose it in a instant. I don't know what to do 

[tyme]

Hey @xcfal ,

Welcome to the forums. I'm sorry to hear that you feel alone here. It sounds difficult that your friend moved away, and even though you are still in contact, he is very busy.

Are there things you enjoy doing to keep you busy? Like any hobbies or things you like?

[xcfal]

hey thanks for talking.       

im not sure I've lost motivation for everything and everything seems boring.

[tyme]

I lived 20 years in that state @xcfal . It wasn't pleasant. Ultimately, I had to find my protective factors (the things that kept me going).

My protective factors were:

1) kids

2) work

3) responsibility

So many times I wanted to give up, but these things meant I have to stay alive and just keep going.

I found group therapy very helpful. I don't like socialising much, but group therapy taught me the important things in life.

Fast forward to today, I absolutely love my life. I don't know if situations have changed, but I think it is more the way I view situations has changed.

What do you think?

[xcfal]

that's great that you become happy after 20 years 

I don't have anything or really anyone yes I work but the guys there don't get it

and when I come home and get motivation to do something I just get told how stupid I am and I go back to the deep end 

[tyme]

Maybe, if you do something you love, no one can tell you that you are stupid or that you are no good. Listen to your inner self. @xcfal  Your inner self is strong and powerful. 

Listen to your heart and run with it.

You can make a difference to how you feel.

[xcfal]

ive tried that but i keep getting told im stupid and can't think ive lost everything and I can't find anybody that likes me