We actually had an open discussion about  boundaries while my darling was in hospital (mental health ward) and before her discharge. I chose to do this so that I was able to walk away if necessary knowing she was safe. Cant remember exactly but I may have emailed my thoughts to her in advance to discuss with her nurse and discussed it on the phone. The phone discussion resulted in me hanging up and turning the phone off in line with nkt being spoken to disrespectfuly boundary. After initally being angry and deciding my councilor was an ahole she actually switched to sweet compliance.  This turned out to be a disarmament tactict and did not last long. She has learned how to play on my soft side to get her way .