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03-10-2017 07:09 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // Living with BPD - your questions answered // 3 Oct. 7pm - 9pm AEST
Hi hi! I am 29 yo, nd have been diagnosed with bpd for almost 2 years. Still trying to figure myself out. Happy to help where I can.
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03-10-2017 07:11 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // Living with BPD - your questions answered // 3 Oct. 7pm - 9pm AEST
You're all so generous coming here to answer questions and share your own experiences!
Welcome @Abs & @BPD-Cinderella !
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03-10-2017 07:15 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // Living with BPD - your questions answered // 3 Oct. 7pm - 9pm AEST
Okay our first question comes from a loved one of someone who has a BPD diagnosis.
How can you best support someone with bpd?
So to answer this - it would be great to hear from you perhaps the top 3 things that you find helpful from loved ones.
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03-10-2017 07:18 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // Living with BPD - your questions answered // 3 Oct. 7pm - 9pm AEST
Hi @Abs @BPD-Cinderella and @roachy, welcome to Forum Land.
I super like your avatar @BPD-Cinderella.
I am a 40 year old woman who was diagnosed with BPD in 1996 when I was 18 years old. It has certainly been an interesting ride thus far.
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Re: Topic Tuesday // Living with BPD - your questions answered // 3 Oct. 7pm - 9pm AEST
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03-10-2017 07:18 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // Living with BPD - your questions answered // 3 Oct. 7pm - 9pm AEST
Patience, most defintely, love and the willingness to learn and understand.
My fiance is the only one who has stuck with me through mania and depression. I have had many people who say 'I totally understand,' but unless you have bpd you can never understand. However, the willingness to want to try to understand is worth so much. I would rather someone say 'I don't understand but I want to,' than 'I totally understand.'
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03-10-2017 07:19 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // Living with BPD - your questions answered // 3 Oct. 7pm - 9pm AEST
How can you best support someone with bpd?
Ask what my experiences are like and don't judge or shame me for them.
Be really clear and open with boundaries. Unclear boundaries confuse and upset me.
Allow me time and space to manage my emotions without pushing me too hard to communicate them. I get overwhelmed really easily.
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03-10-2017 07:22 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // Living with BPD - your questions answered // 3 Oct. 7pm - 9pm AEST
2. Understand that the voice inside our head is constantly telling us that we're unloved and not wanted. We will ask more than once for reassurance.
3. Have clear boundaries and step away if we're too much. Our emotions can be overwhelming to ourselves and others. If you need a breather, take it and step away. Don't hurt yourself to look after us.
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03-10-2017 07:25 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // Living with BPD - your questions answered // 3 Oct. 7pm - 9pm AEST
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03-10-2017 07:26 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // Living with BPD - your questions answered // 3 Oct. 7pm - 9pm AEST
If I had some loved ones, I would super like them to stay rather than leave my world. I would also like them to believe that I am always doing the best that I can, even if my best seems chaotic sometimes. Third, I would super like them to be consistent. Changes in rules etc super muddle my brain.
@BPD-Cinderella I am really interested to hear you say that you can be manipulative and cruel. I have been told that I'm manipulative a bazillion times, but I don't know what it means.